逍遥右脑 2015-12-20 10:06
The mind is a powerful thing, and in a nanosecond, it can elevate or crush our mood. There’s a real problem when we start buying into the negative thoughts we have about ourselves。
咱们的内心十分强盛，在一霎时就会晋升或毁掉我们的心境。而真正的问题在于，如何将内心深处那些消极想法通通赶出去。
Many of us have problems with negative thoughts playing on the channel of our minds, but if you’re engaging in it consistently, and you believe it, it could be eroding your sense of self-esteem. Here are a few beliefs that indicate you may need to switch the station:
良多人脑海中都会一直显现消极的主意，更蹩脚的是，如果你真的时不断地去想，你就会信认为真，这足以捣毁你的自尊。假如你也会呈现下面这些消极观点，那就代表你应当做点转变了。
I’m a loser. 我是个失败者。
I’m not good enough. 我不够好。
I don’t deserve…. 我不配....。.
No one likes me. 没人喜欢我。
I suck at relationships. 我不会处置情感。
I’m a failure. 我太失败了。
Negative thoughts conjures up bad feelings and hooks you into believing that what those old tapes in your head are playing is actually true. In short, it brings your focus to your failures, and that gets you nowhere。
消极的设法会带来不好的感触，在那脑海中不断的像老式磁带个别反复，也会让你信以为真。简而言之，这会让你把留神力全体放在失败的事件上，会让你彻底迷失自己。
What can you do? Here are some suggestions:你能做些什么呢?下面是一些倡议：
1. Live in the moment活在当下
Self-talk is so subtle that we often don’t notice its effect on our mood and belief systems. Key things to notice are “if only or “what if” statements: the former keep you stuck in the past with regret, while the latter keep you fearful of the future. There is nothing you can do about the past, and the future isn’t here yet, so stay in the present moment。
内心的声音太奥妙，有时我们基本不会注意到他们对情感和信念发生的影响。最须要注意的就是“要是....。.多好” 和“倘若....。.将会怎么” 这样的想法：前者会让你陷入对过去无尽的懊悔，后者会让你对将来充斥胆怯。对从前，你无能为力，而未来还未到来，好好活在当下吧。
2. Visualize the good things让那些美妙变得形象活泼
If we want to change the negative tapes playing in our heads, we have to visualize ourselves positively—that means seeing yourself non-judgmentally. Picture accepting yourself. How would that look? Draw a picture in your mind and expand on it。
如果要换掉脑海中不断播放的消极磁带，我们就要看到自己身上积极的一面，也就是说不带评判的看看自己。在内心细细描写客观接收自己会是什么的画面。细细画出心中所想，那会是什么样?
3. Recognize that actions always follow beliefs要意识到行为由信念指引
Whatever you believe, you’ll experience more of, and you’ll also find yourself behaving in ways that are congruent with your beliefs. So, start believing the best about yourself: act as if you believe that you’re a valuable and worthy person。
不论你是否信任，你当前的人生会阅历更多，也会发明本人的行动跟信心是相辅相成的。所以要开始相信自己最好的一面：相信自己是一个有价值的人，而后开端举动吧。
4. Pay attention to triggers留心那些“导火索”
Triggers are anything that can start the old tapes playing. If a certain person is a trigger for you, set boundaries with them。导火索能够使任何让脑海中消极磁带播放的人。如果某个人是你的导火索，那么就阔别他们。
5. Develop positive counterstatements to refute negative self-talk踊跃反驳内心那些消极的声音
Instead of always putting yourself down in your head, think of some things you actually like about yourself. What are your strengths, what are you good at? Keep your counterstatements in the here-and-now, instead of saying “I’m not good enough” try saying, “I am capable. I’m good at ______. I accept myself the way I am。”
与其在脑海中一味的打压自己，还不如想想你到底爱好自己什么样子。你的强项是什么，专长是什么?与其说“我不够好”，不如当初就开始说这句正能量的话语：“我有才能，我善于....，我喜欢现在的自己。”
Thinking poorly about ourselves gets us nowhere and is extremely self-limiting. Decide today to turn off the negative self-talk channel in your mind and develop your true potential。
不可一世只会让自己迷失方向，同时限度自身发展。从今天开始就关掉心坎的消极频道，发掘本身的潜力吧。