逍遥右脑 2015-11-28 08:49
You’ve probably heard the old saying “The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence.”
你肯定听过这样一句谚语：“竹篱外的草总是分内绿”，别人的仿佛总比我们好。
Perhaps you feel like it’s true. You look at other people’s lives, and you envy them. They seem to be doing so much better than you. They’ve got a great job. Lots of money. A happy home life. They seem to have it all. And you can’t help wishing that you did, too.
也许你认为这句话是对的，你会爱慕嫉妒别人的生活，感到他们什么都比你做得好：体面的工作、丰富的收入、幸福的家庭，他们似乎什么都有了。所以你忍不住盼望：要是自己也能拥有这些就好了。
But none of us ever really know what it’s like to live someone else’s life. No-one’s life is perfect – whatever it looks like from the outside.
但咱们素来无从知晓，如果让我们去过别人的生活会是什么样子。也许从外面看来很美好，但不人的生活是白璧无瑕的。
Plus, it’s a safe bet that some of your friends are looking at your life and thinking very similar things. Whatever state your life is in, you’ve got a lot of good things. You just need to recognize them again.
而且我完整可以确定，有一些你的朋友也跟你一样，看着你的生活想着相似的事情。实在不论你现在的生活状况如何，你都已经占有了许多美妙的事情，你只须要从新意识自己的生活。
I. Enjoy What You Have
享受你所拥有的一切
One of the best ways to love your current life is to write a list of things you’re grateful for. It doesn’t matter if they seem small or insignificant: little everyday moments of happiness count. You might think of:
酷爱自己现在的生活，最好的方法之一就是写下性命中让你心怀感谢的事情。就算是很琐碎很没有意思也没有关系：恰是这些日常生活中快活的小时刻让我们的生活变得有意义。你可能会想到：
1. People who you’re grateful for – your family, friends, housemates, co-workers…
你感激的那些人：你的家人、友人、室友、共事等等;
2. Treats which you enjoy – the smell of fresh coffee, the taste of dark chocolate, a long bath after a hard day…
你喜欢的那些货色：新颖现磨咖啡的香味，黑巧克力的滋味，还有辛劳一天后好好洗个热水澡;
3. Things which make your day easier – the dishwasher, online grocery shopping, fast internet access at work…
会让生活变得轻松的事物：洗碗机、网上购物、工作时的快捷网络;
4. Anything special which you’ve grown accustomed to – your wedding ring, your smartphone, a favorite coat…
已经让你变得习惯的特殊物件：结婚戒指、智能手机、最爱好的外套;
5. Happy moments – chatting with a friend, something which made you laugh, playing with your kids…
那些欢喜时光：和朋友的闲聊、让你开怀大笑的事情、和孩子们一起游玩......
II. Focus on the Good Points
专注生活中好的方面
When we’re thinking about future goals and ambitions, it’s easy to end up in quite a negative mood about the present. Perhaps you start thinking through all the things you want to change in your life: losing weight, getting fit, quitting smoking, switching jobs…
当我们想到未来的目的和幻想时，我们很轻易对当下陷入一种消极的情感中。也许你开端想到生活中你想改变的所有事情：减肥、健身、戒烟、换工作等等。
As well as thinking of what you might want to change, look at the areas of your life which are currently good. Maybe:
在想到你想要转变的这些事件的同时，也看看当初的生涯中已经很好的局部，兴许是：
1. You get on well with your colleagues at work, and you’ve got a good relationship with your boss
你跟同事相处得十分融洽，跟老板的关联也很好;
2. You’ve got some real strengths – like being able to establish a quick connection with clients, and being organised
你已经培育了一些真正的上风：比喻说能很快的与客户树立接洽，而且比拟有条理;
3. Your house is set up pretty much how you want it – there might not be loads of space, but it feels like home
家里的结构正是你始终想要的：可能空间不大，但无比有家的温馨;
…and so on. How could you make more of these good things? Perhaps you could spend more time on your hobbies, or concentrate on your particular strengths at work.
还有良多。这些好的方面应当如何应用呢?也许你能够在自己的喜好上花更多的时光，或在工作上专一于本人的专长。
III. Live in the Moment
活在当下
It’s appropriate to plan for the future, and to learn from the past – but it’s not a good idea to constantly have your mind on how “things will be better next year when…” or on “life was so much better last year because…”
为将来打算和从过去学习，这都是很准确的做法，但假如你的心里总是在纠结 “明年等......的时候事情可能会好起来” 或是“去年的生活轻松多了由于......” ，那就不太对了。
Being able to live in the moment means appreciating what’s around you. It’s about having your attention on now, instead of reminiscing about what’s already gone, or worrying about what’s yet to come. Living in the moment means:
活在当下，意思是要观赏现在生活中四周的所有。把你的注意力放在现在，而不是追忆已成从前的旧事，或是忧心还未到来的来日。活在当下象征着：
1. Enjoying your days off, without constantly thinking about Monday morning.
休息日就好好休息，别老是想着立刻要来的周一;
2. Taking time to stop and watch a beautiful sunset, or to enjoy the smell of fresh-mown grass.
花点时间停下来看看漂亮的夕阳，或者闻闻刚修剪过的草坪的青草香;
3. Eating your meals more mindfully – instead of grabbing a sandwich on the run.
更居心的享受每一餐食品，而不是抓一个三明治促了事。
By keeping your attention on the present moment, the here-and-now, you can get much more enjoyment from the life you already have.
让你的留神力专注在当下的时间，此刻此处。你会从已经领有的生活中感触到更多的乐趣。